Jeri will be featured on Creative Chic‘s Coffee Bar for the months of July, August and September. She will be discussing networking and how to make authentic connects. Check out her first post of this 3 part series:
My Simple Soiree is excited to present the 7th annual Bridal Expo at Manahan Orthopedic Capital Center. General Registration opens today!
We already have 4 of our Sponsorship spots filled and over 15 booths from our Priority Registration with 2016 Be Wed Vendors. If you are interested in the last Sponsor spot please contact us prior to mailing payment. As this is has limited availability and we only have 1 Sponsor per vendor category.
Please read through the following information carefully as there have been some changes for 2017.
Pricing & Door Prizes – We are increasing the early registration cost by $30 from last year, and the regular registration by $25. Where are we spending this extra money? First, we are no longer requiring you to provide door prizes ($30 savings!). We love to keep things simple and would rather you focus on making your booth the best it can be, instead of spending extra energy on a door prize. The extra money will be put directly into a grand prize, that will help to attract more brides and cut down on the talking during the expo. We feel as though this will make the day-of registration run more smoothly as well. Second, website links will be provided at no extra cost. We still pride ourselves in having extremely competitive pricing with other shows in the area!
Included in booth price:
- Grace Rental Fees
- Pipe & Drape
- Event Advertising
- Live Broadcasting: Day of the Event
- Promotional Materials for the Event
- Lead list after the show
- Website Link
- Grand Prize
Payment – We are requiring vendors to pay in full when the contract is submitted. We want to make sure invoices are sent out promptly, and decided this was the best way to avoid any hiccups in payments, and again make day-of registration easier for all involved. That being said no booths will be held or ear marked.
Upper Level spaces for Independent Vendors: We have 6 table spaces for independent distributors to display their company/products. We are offering this as an alternative to a booth space on the main floor. These will be first come, first served and may NOT be shared. Electricity is not available at these tables, but are in a prime location for brides and guests as they enter the expo.
Bridal Game Show: We will be hosting a couples game show on stage. Not only will this drive attendance, but also, increase engagement of attendees at the expo. If you would like to be apart of our Game Show planning and/or prizes, please let us know.
Vendor Features: We would like to feature vendors experts on stage. Vendors would provide a 10 minute expertise session to promote and share their brand and business. Vendor presentations will need to be approved by the Be Wed organizers. We only have ONE featured vendor spot left!
We will be announcing other expo day-of details as the day approaches, but we do have some needs for the day of the expo for events on stage.
- men’s suiting
- floral arrangements: stage florals
- runway & stage decor
- DJ/MC for the event
If you would like to partner with us for giveaways beyond the grand prize, please contact us! We are open to any ideas that will bring in additional brides. Some ideas are listed below, but please do not feel limited to these:
- wedding dress
- free vendor services
Please feel free to call, email, or message us with any questions. Don’t delay in registering. Last year we had over a dozen vendors on a wait list for booths. We look forward to working with you on the 2017 Be Wed Bridal Expo!
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My Simple Soirée is adding to our team! We are thrilled to open the position of Associate Event Coordinator and find our newest member of the team. Please see below for more details and job requirements. Deadline to apply is July 5, 2016.
My Simple Soirée is looking for a detail oriented and creative individual to join our team. Our ideal candidate is teachable, flexible, professional and highly self-motivated. The candidate understands urgency in the fast-paced event world, but can remain calm under pressure making appropriate decisions based on the facts available while maintaining the highest level of customer service. MSS is searching for an individual with similar values not just in business but in life. We believe in a firm foundation of family, faith, and hospitality which enables us to serve our clients.
* Coordinating Wedding Rehearsals/Days
* Creating and Editing Event Timelines
* Managing Client Communication
* Vendor Liaison
* Representing MSS with the highest level of professionalism and detail
* Warsaw/Ft Wayne local
* Skype or FaceTime capabilities
* College Degree or completion date in May 2017
* 1 Year Customer Service Experience
* Proficient in Office Suite
* Understanding of Wedding Etiquette
* Organized and detail oriented
* Creative thinking when problem solving
* Anticipate upcoming challenges
* Devoted to self improvement and development
* Team player and open to direction
* Ability to work weekends
* Ability to stand for long periods of time
* Ability to lift 40 lbs+
* Personal transportation, laptop and smartphone
Non requirements, but preferred:
* Prior Event Experience; portfolios available for review
* Photography Background
* Variable per event but up to 25 hours, primarily Fridays and Saturdays
* Yearly forcasted need up to 8 events per year. *This is a seasonal/part-time position
* Per event rate + commission pay based on experience
* Email resume and cover letter to: email@example.com
* Must apply by July 5, 2016
Please no phone calls and limit 1 email per applicant.
How to Be the Best Maid of HonorFrom the moment your friend switches her Facebook status to “Engaged” you can bet her mind starts racing with wedding thoughts! One of the first things a girl considers when planning her wedding is who will be standing next to her. In fact, I think most girls would admit they have the girls picked out long before they know which guy they will be standing next to.
Not only have we interacted with many bridal parties while coordinating weddings, but each of us has also been the Maid of Honor (and bridesmaid) for multiple weddings, not to mention having our own weddings ourselves. Here are some tips we’ve learned, both firsthand and through observation, which we want to share so that you can rock out in your role as the Maid of Honor.
ONLY say YES if you truly mean it.
Most of you will probably gloss over this because, presumably if you’re reading this post, you’ve already committed to standing up in the wedding. However, this truly is the first step you must take before you can be a good MOH.
Most women don’t understand that being asked to stand up in a wedding is just that- it’s a REQUEST. Nobody is forcing you. When you accept, you’re accepting the responsibilities that come along with it. Too often we hear members of the bridal party complaining about being in the wedding when, in reality, you said yes. It’s an honor that someone wants you to be by their side on their wedding day so if you know you simply can’t fulfill the traditional role of the Maid of Honor, be honest with your friend.
Things to think through before saying yes:
Budget- Can you reasonably cover the costs that come with the responsibility? Most girls just plan on buying a dress, but additional costs may include throwing & attending a bridal shower, bachelorette party, shower and wedding gifts, hair/makeup for the wedding day, and shoes or other accessories the bride requests you have for the big day (ie matching shirts, anyone??)
Life Circumstances- Are you graduating from school the month of her wedding? Moving across the country? Are you engaged yourself? A wise man once said, “Life happens.” And that it does! While you aren’t expected to devote 100% of your attention on your friend’s wedding, be honest with yourself. If you know you won’t be able to balance it all, it may be necessary to politely decline; or, offer to help in a different low-key way.
Help her plan HER wedding day.
Help your friend plan the wedding SHE is dreaming of. Not you. The wedding that SHE is envisioning. Not the one you’re envisioning for her. HER wedding. Not yours.…..
Ladies, you’re the Maid of Honor. You’re her friend, confidant, advocate, wingman, secret-keeper- but you are not the bride. Enough said.
Be the Maid of Honor she needs you to be
To be honest, most pieces of advice fall under this! Here’s the deal- you know your friend! To be honest, there are sides of her that you’ve seen that her fiancé may not have even been exposed to it. That’s the beauty of a true friend. Each bride has different strengths and weaknesses, different life situations, different time constraints, etc. Your role in Jackie’s wedding may not be the same as that time you were in Ashley’s. Jackie may be an independent, Type-A project manager who honestly doesn’t need you to call the photographer for her ; however, her parents just got divorced so your main job on the wedding day may simply be to keep them apart! Or, your job may literally just be to drink champagne with her on the wedding day and tell her how much you love the dress (Yes, of course youll shorten it and wear it again!)
Listen to your friend and ask her what SHE needs; be her advocate when she needs that extra voice in her corner. When a bride knows she has you in her corner to help her out wherever she needs it most it makes a world of a difference!
Let her cry over spilled milk
I cannot tell you what it will be, but I guarantee there will be at least one seemingly simple thing during the wedding planning process that will push her over the edge. And sorry chicas, but if you haven’t been engaged before, you can sympathize- but you won’t understand. But in this case, your job isn’t to understand, just listen.
When the rental company only has white linens instead of ivory, sympathize.
When the florist can’t get in spray buds like she thought they could, sympathize.
When her fiancé and her can’t agree on the cake topper, sympathize.
When she wants the string quartet version of her first dance and all the DJ can find is a piano version…
…. And one more thing. Make sure she’s told a RIDICULOUS amount of times on her wedding day just how stunning she is and that her fiance is THE luckiest guy in the whole world to have her. What more could a bride ask for??
We are so excited about our bridal workshop coming up on April 21st. This workshop is the first of its kind in our area and we can’t wait to teach brides all the important aspects of planning their special day.
Our vendors for this first class our some of our favorites. It’s so great to work with not only true professionals but great friends.
For registration information, please visit our EventBrite page.
Here’s more information on this all-inclusive course:
It’s a wrap on our 2nd year organizing, planning and coordinating the be Wed Bridal Expo. 2016 was a fantastic year and we could be more pleased with the vendors and brides that participated this year.
A run down of this years stats:
•Over 220 attendees
•2 grand prize giveaways
We can’t say thank you enough to everyone that helped make the be Wed Bridal Expo such a huge success. From volunteers to vendors, it takes a bridal village and ours here in Northern Indiana is pretty awesome!
Special thanks to our 2016 Sponsors:
Perfect Sounds DJ
We’re already planning a bigger and better be Wed in 2017. Look for information in May for how you can be apart of the fun in 2017!
We recently blogged about the importance of a budget. Today we are going to cover how prioritize your budget to tell your story.
Some of the best weddings and events we’ve planned or coordinated are the ones that incorporate aspects that truly represent our clients.
Matt and Ali love the lake. They both grew up one the water every summer. It was only fitting that they arrive to their reception on their families’ sail boat.
Darrin and Amber both graduated from Purdue University and grew up on the farm. Their wedding was a true representation of “telling your story. From the fire pits to the home grown pumpkins and gourds it was an honor to help them create a unique experience for their guests.
Maybe you’re wondering how do I do this for my wedding or event? Here are the first steps we ask our clients to do.
1. Tell us your story. How did you meet? How did your organization start? What’s your mission statement? What do you do for fun? What words to you want your guests to use to describe your event at the end of the night?
2. Prioritize! What’s the most important to you? Is it the food, decor, entertainment?
3. What can you do realistically do yourself? Or a less expensive version of? Do you need high end invitations or could you do a design from Etsy and print at your local printer? Or could you do a later start time and serve heavy hors d’oeuvres vs a full meal? Maybe your event could utilize sponsorship to help with event costs.
4. Is it cheaper to buy & resale items rather than rent? Think smaller events. Many times it’s easier to buy linens and either have them for future use or resale after your event. This means pick classic colors that can be reused and fit broader needs.
This week has been all about budgets. Today we are going to cover what to DIY and what not to.
Here are a few areas we encourage our clients to DIY:
•Favors. You can incorporate your bridal party, parents and in-laws to help. Just keep it simple and keep it personal. Maybe a magnet of the couple that says, “Thank you!” VistaPrint, Mint and Mpix are all sites to pop your picture in a pre-made template. Think of your theme and incorporate something easy into the table decor.
•Invites. Etsy, Wedding Chicks and Mint make it easy. Find a friend with good handwriting and you can save yourself a few extra dollars by addressing them yourself.
•Buying your own linens. If you have 20 or less tables this maybe the way to go. On average rental companies charge $16.50 per table cloth. If you have colors that are on trend and not specially runners or materials it can be dramatically cheaper to purchase from wholesale linen websites. Plus, you can resell these items after the event and recoup some cost.
•Set up and Tear down. You always have family and friends that want to help. Could they commit to setting up tables and chairs or tearing down at the end of the event? If so, many times this can save you a few hundred dollars.
What NOT to DIY:
•Food or Cake. Many venues have strict policies about licensed caterers and bakers or an approved list you must choose from. They do this for your safety & benefit and theirs. Professionals know how to plan, budget and serve a large group. Plus, the majority of food items have to made within days of the event. You want to spend your wedding week with your friends and family, not stuck in a hot kitchen!
•Photography. Unless your friend or relative is an experienced wedding photographer, it’s best to go with qualified photographers. Remember, pictures capture the moments and details that fade in your memory.
•Florals. First, they are time consuming and need to be done, if fresh, right before the event. Second, being clear with your florist on budget means they can provide cost effective alternatives for your budget.
•Planners or Coordinators. You best friend maybe really organized but if she’s not a seasoned pro then you need to stick with a professional. A good planner can save you, in many cases, up to half of their fee! They see the big picture and know how to guide you to the right vendors and ask the right question. They’ll also be able to use their past experience to work with your vendors on your wedding day and address any emergencies that arise.
DIY has become the new trend. Pinterest has cemented this trend “how to” and “5 simple steps to…” pins for everything under the sun. While we love a good craft and saving a few bucks there are many times it’s not worth the stress or ultimately ends up costing more than hiring a professional.
We would love to help you navigate how, where and if you should DIY in your next event. Be on the look out for a special DIY Bride class we have coming in April. Or,set up a consultation with us today.
Planning a wedding or large event has many moving parts but none of them move without money. It’s the part of the planning process that everyone dreads: the budget.
Budgets are not the enemy. In fact, they are a great way to spark creativity and help prioritize your must haves.
Don’t fall into the common budget buster pitfalls:
- A case of unrealistic expectations of service & cost. Or, one simply underestimating the cost of services on the want list.
- Not being prepared for all the extra expenses that are needed.
Talking to a client about money and how far or, in many cases, how quickly that hard earned money goes is not my favorite part of the process, but one I have to approach comprehensively.
Why? Well many people are disillusioned about the cost of quality professional services. Aunt Milly may be the family baker but feeding 300 people a cake like the decorated one on your Pinterest Vision board is costly. The same goes with florals, decor, food, photography and all those miscellaneous aspects of an event that clients without planners don’t anticipate. Professional services come at a cost and they are worth properly budgeting for.
Here are 3 steps to help you begin.
- Get a firm budget amount. Meaning If you have others(parents/grandparents) contributing, then know the exact dollar amount that they can contribute. Don’t bank on the fact that they’ll pay whatever the cost is because “they just they want me to be happy.” Believe me, everyone has a dollar amount limit – unless you’re Hollywood royalty ;-).
- Prioritize! What tells your story? What people remember are the items that made it personal not everything being Pinterest Perfect (read our thoughts on Pinterest here or here). This is where you should spend your money first and use the remaining money on the less important things.
- Remember to include an incidental category. The areas people usually don’t remember are tipping vendors, invitation postage, event insurance, taxes and delivery fees.
This week we will be posting about how to tell your story within your budget and what that means. If you’re beginning the planning process and want a consultation to go over your budget or recommendations on vendors that fit within your budget, please contact us! We have openings starting in February to assist in your planning needs.
Photo by Jaci Forshtay Photography
I am (Jeri) wife of 11.5 years to Matt, my high school sweetheart, and mom to 4 beautiful girls ages 7, 5, 2.5 and 1. When we started this business 3.5 years ago. I had 2 littles and wanted a way to get back into working part time and using my creative side for more adult ventures. Life was busy but manageable and frankly being able to have a few hours a month out of the house, talking with adults and using the part of my brain that I’d shut off for 3 years was a welcome change of pace.
Then life got real. My husband was going back to get his MBA (Go Irish!) while traveling very frequently for work, I was pregnant with baby #3 (and had a very difficult pregnancy), business was growing and so were the needs of my family. In true Jeri fashion, I put my head down and managed a grueling schedule. I mean that’s what you do right? You just make it work because this is what I signed up for.
Business continued to grow and we were so thankful for the people that believed in us and for the sacrifices our husbands and families made to see our little dream grow. Then I got pregnant with baby #4. Game changer! After thinking I was going to loose the baby, being on modified bed rest and being incredibly sick I had to say no. I had to realize that doing it all was not possible, nor was it healthy for my body, family or emotional state.
God has a way of whispering the direction you should take. Unfortunately, I see those as suggestions and must learn the hard way. Learn from me, listen to the whispers. I was not only dealing with my physical limitations but my family was sick literally and figuratively. We were worn out and paying for the decisions of busy that we had been pushing through. Something had to give.
Photo by Jaci Forshtay Photography
2015 was a crazy year. We welcomed our 4th daughter and we were full of weddings and people depending on us. In my mind, I knew after I delivered the baby things would get moderately better. I knew how to handle baby & work and would have my “normal” body back but I was dreading the cycle of busy that was coming.
After discussing this burn out feeling with Erin and Ally, we knew that we had to start making changes to our business. Setting boundaries, clearly defining our roles and getting back to the why of our business.
First, we set business hours. Sounds so simple but it was huge. I’m the type of person that feels like when I get an email, text or request I need to deal with it now. So this gave me the okay to say no, it can be handled when I’m back in office mode not when I should be sleeping, in the moment with my family or on a rare date with my husband.
With office hours set, I decided I needed to dedicate 3 mornings a week to business. Meaning I needed help with the kids. This was the hardest. The guilt of leaving my littlest girls when I didn’t do this with their older sisters made me feel like a bad mom. I felt guilty that I needed the Martin’s Starbucks to draft client paperwork, timelines, schedules and contracts and those mornings to schedule client meetings. The whole reason I started my own business was to stay home with my kids, right? Yes, but here’s the lesson I had to learn. If you want to be a business, then treat it like a business otherwise you have a hobby. Don’t get me wrong I sneak in grocery shopping and the occasion hair cut but I needed dedicated time to focus and to really be present for my clients. This also gives me the freedom to really be with my girls when its not my business days. To say no, this is my day with my kids and show them that mommy is reaching for her dreams but also caring for her family. So important as I parent 4 girls, I want them to dream big but know that they are and always will be my greatest gifts.
All of this to say that balance doesn’t exist. I love how Jen Hatmaker describes the “balance unicorn” in For the Love
Jen put into words the feelings I had been having for almost 2 years and validated my feelings that the guilt of not achieving it all was destructive.
Take this away on how to juggle it all. Don’t. Simple, but so hard to implement. Figure out what’s stressing you out. Is it worth the space and energy you’re giving? Do you need to set limits like business hours or have a few hours a week or month out of the house to focus on your business? Map out your typical day or week. Really look at what needs to stay & what needs to go. Be honest and be willing to let go of things that just aren’t working for this season of life (see more on how we are do this in New Name, Same Faces). Giving it up for awhile doesn’t mean no for forever. It means no for right now and may bring opportunities you’d never imagined because you gave them the space to develop.